New Relationship – This dream was evoked in response to my having an encounter with a woman yesterday where we made an agreement to exclusively suspend our searching for other possible mates on a dating site until we had time to just examine each other. Her name is Daria.
The dream – New Relationship “Emotional Flood”
I am in the kitchen in my apartment and the sink is backed up and the water starts to rise. The water rises above the sink level and starts to spread onto the counter top. I did not think it was going to get that high, I was shocked. I turn the garbage disposal on and at first it does not help, the water continues to rise. The water overtakes the counter top and starts flowing onto the floor. I grab a towel to soak up the water, but there is too much water – I go back to playing with the garbage disposal switch and finally the water starts going down the drain and the flooding comes under control.
I am afraid the people under me are going to have water in their apartment.
I go out my front door to tell my apartment manager about the flooding. I thought I heard him talking outside.
When I open the door, the manager is there, but he is helping some women move into an apartment close to mine. There are about 5 or 6 women helping each other move furniture in. I am checking them out to see if there is one I am interested in – I am unable to make any identification; however, I am quite sure that I am going to have a connection with one of them. They seemed to have a lot of energy – they have no problem handling the items that they are carrying.
Then I see a passage that I have never noticed in the apartment complex and I go through it. There is a huge section in the apartment complex that I had never seen before. The deck is about the size of a football field. It has a miniature golf course, a huge playground for kids and lounge areas for residents to relax in. There is a great view of the mountains from the deck and the weather is perfect. It is a balmy evening with temperature of about 70 degrees F. The sun is low or it is cloudy – perfect from my perspective.
I wonder why the manager never told me about this place. With my two younger children, I could have used the playground to entertain them. But, I figure we can still get use out of the miniature golf course.
I have this sense that a whole new vista or part of my life is opening up. I do have a sense that I have missed out on what was always there, but I am excited or pleased that I have made this discovery – it opens up more space in my life – breathing room.
Psychoanalytic Dream Interpretation of Emotion Flood in New Relationship
I had an unusually open exchange with a woman on a dating site yesterday. I hesitated on chatting to the woman at first because I thought she was too young, but she had written to me. She looked like someone else that I had been talking to for over a year, but that other person turned out to be part of a scam. Perhaps, part of me was looking to replace the void left by the realization that I had wasted emotional energy on an imaginary relationship that was never going to happen.
During the actual exchange, it became evident that we both had different meanings in how we intended to pursue our mutual interest. I assumed that it was okay to continue looking at other women while we continued to investigate each other. She assumed that while we investigated each other – the relationship would be exclusive. When I pointed this out to her, she seemed shocked that someone would be that open with what was really going on – and I think she appreciated that.
Her approach is the way I would have felt it should have been years ago, however I guess I became somewhat jaded or hardened by the reality of relationships and the dating world. So, I agreed to her terms to be mutually exclusive while we further investigate each other as potential mates.
So, the dream meaning of the flooding in the sink is the flooding of emotions that usually result when I have a real encounter that is unusual or difficult for me to handle. The sink overflows because I did not expect the encounter to have such an emotional charge.
This woman is exceptional to me, and I am placing myself at a certain risk. I could be rejected, and since I have transferred the feelings I had toward the woman in the scam onto this new real woman (the mix of women in the dream) I am opening myself up to the pain of real rejection. Hence, the flood in the dream – but I manage to bring it under control because I feel the risk is manageable.
When I go outside the apartment, I see the women moving in. This represents the chance of a new relationship entering into my life. But, I am not sure which woman it is because of the transfer of the emotions from the woman in the scam to the woman on the dating site. To me they look somewhat alike, both too young and beautiful. In the dream, I am interested in one of the women, but not certain which one it is – but I know it is one of these specific women.
The woman on the dating site, Daria, has a lot of energy. She swims, works out, is in excellent shape and operates her own physical training business. Therefore, the women are having no problem moving the furniture into their apartment.
I discover the new recreational area in the complex. The dream meaning here is that the potential of a real relationship opens a new world. All of a sudden my space of existence has been expanded by a huge amount of living space. I feel a sense of having missed out on a bond with my children for two years because I was not told about this area – the dream meaning here represents the time I have lost by not being open before hand, living in my small world and allowing myself to believe in things that were not real (scam woman).
But, now I see that my world is not small and I can expand it to open areas. The first new thing in the area is a miniature golf course that I think my young girls would like to play. Then, I see a play ground, but feel my children and I have missed the potential to have enjoyed this part of their life with them due to my mental breakdown about 8 years ago, I missed a large section of their life, therefore, I see this area as a missed potential that has passed by and lament that period – however, I see the existing potential with the miniature golf course that I am sure will interest them.
The potential for the new relationship with this woman will bring enough new life to me, that it will also allow the potential to expand my exiting relationship with my children. Since, I have been somewhat depressed – not in a depressed state per se but an overall lack luster disposition where I do not exactly exude life or enthusiasm. This woman seems to have a certain enthusiasm with her career.
In the new open area I feel I have the room to breathe – it is wide and open – the air is fresh and the temperature is perfect. I feel alive again with a new potential to connect with my children and a new woman.
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Love from Wikipedia
Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection (“I love my mother”) to pleasure (“I loved that meal”). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals.
Non-Western traditions have also distinguished variants or symbioses of these states; words like storge, philia, eros, and agape each describe a unique “concept” of love. Love has additional religious or spiritual meaning—notably in Abrahamic religions. This diversity of uses and meanings combined with the complexity of the feelings involved makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, compared to other emotional states.
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